66: Extreme Ownership by Jocko Willink & Leif Babin

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So I don't want to revisit the conversation from drunk tank pink, but I do have to offer something that my wife said, which really helped me clarify what I did a very poor job of explaining regarding the blue light.
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Okay, so we're gonna go back to this now.
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Okay, just real quickly, because she said it way better than I did.
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Okay, she said that color temperature is not color.
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This coming from a professional photographer.
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So I think if I were to, because I edited the episode, I go back and I listened to that and I wanted to take it out because it was a clumsy argument.
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I'm like, I'm just gonna leave it in.
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You know, I said all this stuff.
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I'm just gonna throw it out there.
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And then she listened to it.
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She's like, yeah, that's what you were trying to say.
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So really the issue was not with the fact that color temperature can be used to control us, but just color temperature is not color, so it didn't fit in that section.
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Okay.
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Anyways, moving on.
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Yep.
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Right.
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Right.
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So...
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True.
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I actually bought mine Black Friday too, and then...
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Oh yeah.
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...for the...
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They just refunded to you.
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So how they did that?
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Got it.
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Yeah.
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Got it.
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Yes.
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Pins.
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When do you get pins?
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Okay.
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So I got a bunch of pins.
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So pins as in writing pins or...
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Oh pins like you pin on your backpack.
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The little...
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Oh I totally want one.
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Yeah.
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Assuming you wear a suit coat, you could do that too.
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I do that regularly, but come on.
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Now you're making me want to wear one to Max-Dock just to prove it to you.
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I'll bring some for you.
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All right.
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Well Mike, you have one long-term action item here that you brought up.
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I do.
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This is from Digital Minimalism, I believe, but I had an action item to figure out my own low
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information diet.
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And I think that I have finally figured out how I'm going to do this.
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Okay.
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I...
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And actually I've done it.
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So I signed up for a service called Feed Bin.
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Feed Bin.
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Go on with a little burger icon.
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It's five bucks a month, but what it is, is it is an RSS feed.
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So kind of like I've had been using Feed Wrangler, and that's 20 bucks a year.
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And then Feed Bin combines that with Instapaper and also gives you the ability to send an email
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from your inbox to an address kind of like Instapaper did and put it into your queue.
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Okay.
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So everything is all in one feed.
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Sure.
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And I'm eliminating basically Instapaper because that Instapaper would be pulled into the feed
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anyways.
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And I'm eliminating Feed Wrangler and between the two of those it's 50 bucks a year.
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So I'm spending that 50 bucks a year to get Feed Bin.
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I got the one service and then I can forward emails and newsletters, things like that that
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I want to read into there.
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But when I did that I also went through and trimmed all of the sources that I was subscribed
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to in my RSS reader.
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So there were some things that were posting all the time.
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Like I think Mac Rumors was on there, Mac Observer, where it's just too much information
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for me to keep up with.
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I like the stuff that they were sharing, but the really important stuff always surfaces
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somewhere else.
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So I basically cut the number of feeds that I was subscribed to in half when I signed up
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for Feed Bin and had to transfer everything over.
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Now the goal is to just use the reader app on my phone, preferably iPad or Mac because
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it syncs all those different places and go through the news that way and not look at
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Twitter.
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Although Feed Bin I should say can also pull in tweets if you wanted to have like a list
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or something that you wanted to show up as part of your news feed.
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Oh and you can have that come in automatically.
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Yeah, yeah.
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So basically the activity I'm trying to change is going to Twitter to see the news and just
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pulling the things that have the news that I actually want to read into my RSS reader,
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which is driven by Feed Bin and is viewed in the reader app, hopefully in the, probably
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the morning on my iPad is how I really want to implement this, not on my phone.
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Nice.
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This sounds like a pretty slick set, like a really smooth system there.
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Well I'm still making tweaks to it, but it seems to be working so far.
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I am pretty impressed with the email support.
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It does have like a bar on the side which kind of bothers me like the forwarded message.
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I'm not really sure a way to clean that up though without having to run a script which
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I don't know how to do or what, you know, like basically you hit the forward button
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in an email and it's going to show what part of the email is forwarded and then what part
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if you wanted to add anything new, you know, you put that at the top.
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It does a great job of rendering the forwarded email, but like I said, it does kind of shift
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everything over to the right and then it's got the little bar on the left.
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Yeah.
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And if I could get rid of that, that would be ideal, but I can live with it if it has
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to be.
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You use mail mate, right?
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I do.
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I think there's a setting for indenting quotes on forwards and replies.
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Hmm.
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All right.
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You just created another action item for me.
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There you go.
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I'm pretty sure there's a setting something like that that does the indentation for quoting
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replies or forwards or it's something along those lines.
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There is a ridiculous number of options in mail mate which I looked at initially and
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haven't touched for like two years.
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Yeah.
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Because there's just too many to think about.
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Yeah, there's a lot there for sure.
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Well, that sounds interesting, Mike.
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I hope it treats you well.
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It's working so far.
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All right.
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Should we talk about today's book?
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Yeah, this will be a fun one.
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All right.
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So today's book is extreme ownership.
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The subtitle is how US Navy SEALs lead and win and it's written by Jocko Willink and
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Lafe Babin.
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I believe I'm pronouncing that.
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I think it's leaf Babin, I think.
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Hmm.
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Okay.
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I knew someone who spelled their name that way and it was Lafe.
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Lafe?
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Okay.
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Maybe it is.
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I guess that's just what I default to.
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I'm going to call them Willink and Babin.
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I'm just going to call them Jocko.
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There you go.
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It's a fun name.
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But anyways, this is a book which has done pretty well in the revised version I've got
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says number one New York Times bestseller and it was expanded and it's got a couple
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different sections that the original one didn't which makes it longer.
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I think we mentioned the last podcast.
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It's like 300 something pages.
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Yeah.
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It's definitely not a short read but it's an entertaining read and it's got an interesting
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format.
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It's basically broken down into the three sections as you do.
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Yep.
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But then each chapter in those sections has a story at the beginning from their deployment
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in Iraq and then a short section in the middle about the principle itself.
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And then the last part is a story about one of their consultations because they have a
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leadership training company and they work with a lot of companies and organizations to
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develop leadership in the people that in their teams.
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So they share a story from their consulting that illustrates the principle as well.
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So you get a lot of different ways that you could be applying it which I think helps you
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realize what's the word I'm looking for.
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Basically when you take something and you apply it to your own situation I guess that
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would be generalizing something.
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So you're able to generalize the concepts because they give you the different arenas
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that they could be exhibited in.
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Yeah.
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And I also note that they, I didn't catch if they actually took turns but they put their
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specific name on the chapters that they wrote.
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That's true.
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Which was very interesting to me.
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A lot of times when you see co-authored books like this you don't always know who wrote
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what section.
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Yeah.
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And they tend to work on it together.
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This is not like that.
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They have like, they've got Jocko's name on the front of the chapter where of the one
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that he wrote.
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And I don't remember if they took turns back and forth on that.
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I didn't catch that part but they did at least take the time to put the author of that section
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on the chapter title page.
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Which I thought was very interesting.
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You don't normally see that.
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But it did help with the flow and the format of the whole thing.
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Which the other thing I didn't notice was I sometimes had to go back and flip to the
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front of the chapter to figure out which one I was reading.
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Yeah.
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Because they have such a, like it's very similar in how they write.
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So it's not like you have a scenario where this chapter is different from that one and
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this one's written better than that one.
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I really didn't run across that at all.
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So kudos to them on working through to get that all done.
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But it was interesting to see, like to your point, the format of let's take a scenario
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that goes from the worst fights in Iraq and how do those translate into business scenarios.
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So it was very fascinating from that view.
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And it's interesting because I feel like with Bookworm, what we do is we read these
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books and maybe it's not a book that was written for people in our situation.
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But our goal every time is to get something from it and take the principle and apply it
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to our own life.
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And so that's kind of what they did with the structure that they use in this book.
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It kind of facilitates that.
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And so even if you are not enamored with the military culture, which obviously there is
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a lot of discussion of that, you can still get a lot out of this book, although that
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definitely comes through.
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And back to your point about who wrote what chapters you're right.
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I noticed the names when I read through them, but I didn't end up actually going back to
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see who wrote a specific chapter as I was going through it.
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It was important though, sometimes because like there was one chapter which we'll get
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into, "Lafe/Leaf" was talking.
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And he was relaying a story of an order that he had gotten from his higher up, which happened
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to be Jocko.
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And that was important to the story that he was telling, was that chain of command and
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their positions relating to each other.
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So it was important that you knew that "Leaf" was talking at that point instead of Jocko.
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But it is different because most of the books that we read, like you said, they have co-authors.
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It's just beginning to end sounds like one voice, one person.
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And so it's even hard, like in the CMS that we have for releasing Bookworm, we have the
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name of the book, and then we have the author's name.
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We can't put more than one author's name.
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And most of the time I'm just like, "Ah, whatever.
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This other guy don't even know what he contributed because the first guys that weren't telling
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all the stories anyway."
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But you can't do that with this book.
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Yeah, no, it's fascinating though.
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So let's jump into part one.
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We're not going to run through every single chapter in the whole book.
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We've got some of them that we've selected that are the ones we'd rather spend some
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more time on.
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But yeah, it's split out into three different parts.
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Part one is winning the war within.
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Obviously they're telling stories about combat scenarios.
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Neither Mike or I have military backgrounds.
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Nope.
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So keep that in mind.
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But winning the war within everything has a military analogy to it.
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And the first chapter within part one is extreme ownership where they go through the
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process of explaining what the mindset of extreme ownership is.
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Yeah.
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And just to, I guess, set the tone for what to expect from this book, I'll just mention
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real briefly the story that they shared at the beginning.
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So I'm probably going to do a very poor job of summarizing this.
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But basically when they were in Iraq, they had to coordinate between the Navy SEALs.
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So that's the people who are writing this book.
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And then they were working and conducting missions with the army and then also the Marines.
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And they had all of these different communication networks for the different branches of the
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military.
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And they had to make sure that they were able to communicate together to achieve the mission
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that they were, the outcome of the mission.
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And the beginning of this story, the beginning of this book starts with a story, I forget
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who specifically it was.
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It's one of the authors.
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They were in a situation where there was friendly fire and blue on blue is what they
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called it.
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And they came back to camp and they were debriefing.
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And this is like a huge no, no, this never happens.
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You know?
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He's kind of like, well, what should I do?
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Should I figure out what went wrong and blame that person?
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And really what they did is they stood up in front of all of the higher ups who had flown
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in for this particular meeting.
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And he's like, it's my fault.
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And I think this was Jocko, if I remember right?
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Yeah, it was Jocko.
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Okay.
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So he basically said that that saved his military career because they basically viewed
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his taking ownership of the situation as it wasn't going to happen again.
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And he was going to make the adjustments that were necessary.
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He wasn't going to throw somebody else under the bus.
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And that's the kind of leader that they wanted.
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But this really is a powerful idea for me.
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Now I guess a little bit of context here, this extreme ownership idea is really the idea
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that everything is your fault.
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So if you aren't happy with your situation, you don't blame somebody else for creating
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it for you.
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But you don't blame the ownership of it and you fix it yourself.
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I was talking to somebody who had read this book and actually mentioned it to me not too
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long ago.
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And they said that they actually have a new book out, which I believe is called the
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dichotomy of leadership.
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It's also the name of the last chapter.
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But it kind of tempers this whole idea of extreme ownership because people were taking
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this too far with their teams and they weren't letting other people take extreme ownership.
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Right.
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So we'll talk about that in a little bit here, but really the idea at the very beginning
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with this whole extreme ownership chapter is kind of the idea of personal responsibility
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that everything that happens to you is your fault, which if you hear it through one lens
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seems completely unfair.
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But when you hear it through another perspective is actually very freeing and empowering because
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it means that, yeah, maybe bad stuff happened, but it doesn't have to keep happening.
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You have the ability to impact the outcome based on the things that you do now.
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And that's very much in line with a lot of stuff that we've talked about on this podcast,
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but they take it to a whole nother level here.
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I think I would maybe, maybe tweak that into just a slight degree and say it's not necessarily
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your fault, but it is your responsibility to do something with it.
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Because fault, at least to me, is more of what I did directly led to the result.
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And that may not be the case in this scenario.
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And in a lot of the stories that they tell, it's not that way.
00:21:31
But I do think that you have a strong responsibility to step up and take ownership of the situation
00:21:38
and just take it from the stance of the actions that I have performed may not have directly
00:21:46
led to the result that I'm dealing with, the consequences of what I'm looking at.
00:21:51
But they may have had an indirect result.
00:21:55
This may be an indirect result of what I've done.
00:21:58
I don't know if that's the same or if it's different, but it feels very different to me.
00:22:01
Yeah, I get what you're saying.
00:22:03
And I think you are right that there is a difference there that maybe what happened to
00:22:11
you really wasn't anything of your doing.
00:22:15
But I guess when I say calling everything your fault, really what that does is it sets
00:22:22
you up for what you are able to do about it going forward.
00:22:27
That's really where the ownership piece comes in.
00:22:30
It's not looking back and projecting blame on what broke.
00:22:34
And that's kind of the thing that they tell in the story too.
00:22:38
He could have gone back and identified different points where the people underneath him had
00:22:43
messed up.
00:22:45
And those things did contribute to the fact that they had friendly fire.
00:22:50
But he basically wasn't willing to go there.
00:22:53
And when asked like, why did this happen?
00:22:56
He just took the blame even though he didn't have to and say it's my fault.
00:23:01
So I guess that's the thing I want to call out for people doing this is going through
00:23:07
this book with us is that you maybe don't have to assume responsibility for the things
00:23:15
that have happened.
00:23:16
But if you do, it gives you more options going forward.
00:23:22
Is that a fair way to say it?
00:23:23
Yep.
00:23:24
No, I think you're spot on there.
00:23:27
Again, you have to be the one that's willing to perform actions to rectify the situation.
00:23:35
Yep.
00:23:36
Like that's ultimately what they're calling for.
00:23:39
And that's the mindset that the rest of the book is based on.
00:23:42
So chapter one, extreme ownership.
00:23:45
Every other chapter, every other part of the rest of the book builds on that foundation
00:23:50
and kind of gives different scenarios where it comes about in what it looks like in given
00:23:56
scenarios, which leads us right into chapter two.
00:24:02
And I think we're going to skip three and four to get into part two.
00:24:06
But the second chapter is no bad teams, only bad leaders.
00:24:13
And the story that he told here, I think was just really interesting.
00:24:18
Yeah.
00:24:19
Because they basically conducted an experiment on their own seals and training.
00:24:27
And they had two, well, they had four teams.
00:24:32
I don't understand what the training systems were, but I do know that they were broken
00:24:38
apart into four teams.
00:24:40
They each had a boat and they had an entire series, like a course and obstacles and stuff
00:24:46
they had to go through in order to get to a finish line.
00:24:48
So there's a start line, there's a finish line.
00:24:51
All four teams are in competition to get from one to the other.
00:24:54
Yeah.
00:24:55
And if I could add a little bit of context here, I go for it.
00:24:57
This is part of what they call Hell Week.
00:25:00
Yes.
00:25:01
And so the main objective of Hell Week is to get as many people to quit as possible.
00:25:06
Yes.
00:25:07
So the training that they're having to do is literally designed to wear them out.
00:25:12
It's not designed to teach them a specific skill necessarily.
00:25:16
Correct.
00:25:17
So you have to understand the lens through which the people who are being asked to do
00:25:21
these things are getting these instructions.
00:25:24
Yep.
00:25:25
And then one of the things they have to do is they have to basically take this boat as
00:25:28
a team and carry it all over the place.
00:25:30
It's just crazy.
00:25:31
So it's like ridiculous stuff that you probably wouldn't do in combat, but you just have to
00:25:37
do it because you're higher up told you you needed to do it and you have to do it like
00:25:40
seven days in a row with getting no sleep.
00:25:42
Yes.
00:25:43
Which sounds horrible to me.
00:25:46
But 72 hours.
00:25:47
But yeah.
00:25:48
Yeah.
00:25:49
It's crazy.
00:25:50
So the story goes that, and I'm going to blank on which team it was, but let's say it
00:25:55
was team four was winning repeatedly.
00:26:00
And the thing is that if you win, you basically get a little bit of a respite while the other
00:26:05
teams have to do like extra work, like extra physical training of some sort, extra PT.
00:26:15
And team four is winning repeatedly.
00:26:17
So they're getting the breaks.
00:26:18
They're in high spirits.
00:26:19
They're high five and et cetera, et cetera.
00:26:23
Team two is always in dead last, you know, which is terrible because if you get last,
00:26:29
you get extra and then you're tired and then you got to go right into the next race, which
00:26:36
then they lose, which means they're doing extra exercises, which then makes them tired,
00:26:40
which means in the next, you get the idea.
00:26:41
Yeah.
00:26:42
It compounds.
00:26:43
At one point, the officer in charge of the whole scenario takes the platoon leader, the
00:26:52
guy who was in charge of each individual boats and switches them.
00:26:56
So now the leader from team four that was winning all the time is now the leader of
00:27:00
team two, which was losing all the time.
00:27:03
And the loser from team two is now the leader on the winning team of team four, which the
00:27:08
leader from team two now feels like he's won the lottery because he gets to go to a team
00:27:14
that's just dominating the leader from team four probably feels like he's out of luck.
00:27:20
But the interesting thing is that on the next race, team two, one.
00:27:25
So the team that was losing repeatedly now won the race and proceeded to then win most
00:27:33
races with team four being right behind them.
00:27:37
So the lesson there is that it's not a bad team.
00:27:41
Team two was not a bad team.
00:27:43
They just had a bad leader in that scenario.
00:27:46
And there's all kinds of extra details ago with that of what made him a bad leader versus
00:27:51
team four's leader and all those little pieces.
00:27:54
But that was the general concept is that the team won if they had a good leader ahead of
00:27:59
them.
00:28:00
Yeah, exactly.
00:28:01
And I want to go back because what really struck me from that story was the command coming
00:28:08
from the leader for the boat leader crews to the leaders of the boat crews to switch.
00:28:15
Because remember, every instruction that they are getting is basically to ride their nerves
00:28:20
and to get them to say, I'm not putting up with this anymore.
00:28:23
Right.
00:28:24
Okay.
00:28:25
So the team that is dead last on every single race, he's got to be thinking he's doing this
00:28:36
just to annoy me.
00:28:37
Right.
00:28:38
Because you know, he's not offering any other explanation for it, which would be my response
00:28:45
to something like that is, well, I want to know why.
00:28:47
Yep.
00:28:48
But in that position, and this is a good question.
00:28:51
I don't know why, but in that position, and this is where I think the military culture
00:28:58
stuff, even though I don't have any experience, really fascinates me because there are situations
00:29:04
like that where you're not going to get an explanation.
00:29:07
And maybe it's not fair, but there's nothing you can do about it except go forward.
00:29:12
And that's exactly what this guy did is he was a good leader and really the lesson from
00:29:17
this whole chapter, you kind of alluded to it, is that there are no bad teams, only bad
00:29:24
leaders as I was talking to my wife who's going through this too, because I love this
00:29:28
book when I read it and was telling her some of the stuff that I was learning.
00:29:32
She and I were talking about the other day and I said, there's no bad, bad kids, only
00:29:35
bad parents.
00:29:36
It's the same principle.
00:29:37
And that's where the ownership piece comes in because good leaders, they talk about in
00:29:44
this section, don't make excuses, they figure out a way to get it done.
00:29:48
So the guy who came from the losing boat crew, he did win the lottery in an essence because
00:29:56
he wasn't a very good leader.
00:29:58
He couldn't inspire his current team to achieve excellence.
00:30:01
But when he got put on a team, which was already excellent, he was able to maintain it, but
00:30:08
he wasn't able to get the people around him to go to that level.
00:30:11
That's really the challenge for me as I read this book.
00:30:16
There's not a whole lot of action items that I have from this, but there's so much actionable
00:30:20
stuff from this in terms, not in the traditional sense of an action item, but things that challenge
00:30:26
me to develop my skills as a leader.
00:30:28
It's not the kind of thing where you can say, okay, I went and I did this and now I've
00:30:31
can check the box and this is done.
00:30:34
But this really helps paint a picture of what an effective leader is.
00:30:37
And the fact in this chapter is also where they say, there are only two types of leaders.
00:30:41
That effective and ineffective.
00:30:45
So I want to be an effective leader.
00:30:46
I want to be the leader of the boat crew who buoys everybody around him, even if I got
00:30:51
put on the losing team, they're not going to be losers for long, but I can inspire people
00:30:56
to go higher, to become better.
00:31:00
I'd like to think that in a small way, that's kind of what Bookworm does as people listen
00:31:04
to this is that you're able to transcend your situation.
00:31:09
That's kind of one of the reasons I really got into podcast before I got into the online
00:31:15
productivity world was I wanted to be around people who were passionate about this stuff,
00:31:20
Apple technology, productivity.
00:31:22
I wanted to learn better ways of doing things.
00:31:25
I wanted to become more effective.
00:31:27
I wanted to become a better leader.
00:31:29
I didn't have a group where I lived that was like, hey, yeah, let's study leadership
00:31:33
together.
00:31:35
But through the magic of technology, you can change your group just by changing the voices
00:31:40
that you allow to speak in your life.
00:31:43
Great.
00:31:44
So I think this is an interesting and humbling chapter if you are a leader.
00:31:49
Like, okay, if the team's not performing well, guess whose fault that is?
00:31:54
That's going to end up being me.
00:31:57
Maybe not my fault, but my responsibility.
00:31:59
See, even I use the wrong term sometime.
00:32:02
So that's a piece that I think is very interesting.
00:32:06
So two other chapters in this first part.
00:32:08
Yeah, let me just combine a point from number three, because there was a story in here that
00:32:14
really impacted me.
00:32:16
And the story was basically that the, I forget the name, but the people who were deciding
00:32:24
what missions were to be run had sent on this order.
00:32:27
So it had gone to Jocko, Jocko had brought it to Lafe and Lafe was supposed to bring
00:32:32
it to his people.
00:32:34
And on the surface, the order seemed kind of ridiculous.
00:32:39
And in fact, the Navy SEALs were upset because it looked like it put them in danger by doing
00:32:45
these things.
00:32:47
And so Lafe's mad, he's talking to Jocko and Jocko basically pushes back and he's like,
00:32:52
well, do you think they will want you to die?
00:32:54
They will know.
00:32:56
Yeah.
00:32:57
So he basically taught Lafe that it's his responsibility when you don't understand the
00:33:03
why behind something to dig and figure it out.
00:33:08
You have to get to the point though, as an effective leader where you believe in the mission,
00:33:12
because if you don't believe it, then you're not going to take the risks that are required
00:33:16
to overcome the inevitable challenges that are going to be necessary to win.
00:33:21
And I think that kind of goes along with the previous chapter of being an effective leader.
00:33:26
You cannot be an effective leader if you are questioning your authority above you in trying
00:33:32
to get the people below you to do that thing.
00:33:35
And that's something that I've struggled with and kind of what I'm realizing from going through
00:33:39
this chapter.
00:33:40
Let me just use like a church context as an example.
00:33:44
You know, my pastor's got a vision for where he wants our church to go.
00:33:47
And there's elders and there's people underneath that and there's the whole chain of command,
00:33:52
you know?
00:33:53
And if he says, we got to do this.
00:33:55
It'd be great if I had the full explanation as to why we should be doing that.
00:34:00
But there are times when I just have to trust that he knows what he's doing.
00:34:05
Yeah.
00:34:06
And I got to understand that before I communicate it to the people below me, because they're
00:34:10
watching me and they're looking at my reaction.
00:34:14
And if I'm excited about this thing, because I believe in it, they will be too.
00:34:18
But if I present it as like, well, guys, I don't know why we're doing this, but you just
00:34:22
got to do it.
00:34:23
You know, what do you think?
00:34:24
The result's going to be it's going to fail.
00:34:26
Yeah.
00:34:27
No, I think that's very true.
00:34:29
And I see that in like even my own business.
00:34:32
Like if the guys that do work for me, if they don't buy into everything we're doing,
00:34:39
then I have not done my job.
00:34:42
So yes, I'm with you.
00:34:45
What's the other one here?
00:34:47
Check the ego is chapter four.
00:34:49
And if I were to summarize this chapter, it would basically be that ego clouds and disrupts
00:34:57
everything.
00:34:58
The planning process, the ability to take good advice, the ability to accept constructive
00:35:03
criticism.
00:35:04
So if you really want to be effective, you've got to be able to check your ego.
00:35:09
In fact, the Navy SEALs have a goal, they say, to be confident, but not cocky.
00:35:12
Don't get complacent.
00:35:13
It's like I'm going to put it.
00:35:15
So yes, believe.
00:35:17
Check the ego part two.
00:35:20
So this takes us from part one, which is winning the war within to part two, laws of
00:35:26
combat, which is very interesting as well.
00:35:30
The first chapter in this section, I think we're going to spend time on number eight,
00:35:33
but number five is cover and move.
00:35:37
And if I had to summarize this from a business context, it would be to move into a new area
00:35:45
or advance a product, stabilize it so that you can build off of that, get it stable,
00:35:53
and then move on to the next, as opposed to continuing to go after three, four, five,
00:36:00
ten different things all at one time, build one, stabilize it, move on to the next.
00:36:06
Like that was the general concept I got from that chapter.
00:36:09
Yeah.
00:36:10
Well, I guess cover and move.
00:36:12
There's a couple of ways this could be applied.
00:36:16
And the story that they told really kind of illustrated that.
00:36:20
So they had a sniper team and actually back up just a little bit.
00:36:25
A lot of the missions that they ran in this, the city, I forget the name of the city that
00:36:29
they were.
00:36:30
I think it's Ramadi, Ramadi, R-A-M-A-D-I.
00:36:34
I'll take your pronunciation of it.
00:36:38
But the missions that they were running or executing, this is like the worst city there.
00:36:45
And what they would do is they would just like charge into the middle of the city, take
00:36:49
a stronghold and then say, "We're here, do something about it."
00:36:55
So they did that with one of their sniper teams.
00:36:58
And then once they had accomplished their objective and they were going to go back to
00:37:04
base, they were left with the option of, "Do we leave in the middle of the day when it's
00:37:11
pretty dangerous or do we wait until evening when the enemies had time to lay a trap for
00:37:19
us?"
00:37:20
And they implemented cover and move and decided to leave in the middle of the day, which is
00:37:25
basically kind of what it sounds like.
00:37:27
You've got a whole bunch of people who are watching all the different angles and then
00:37:31
you work together to make sure that you're moving in the right direction and they eventually
00:37:35
all get back to base.
00:37:36
And they get back to base and they're celebrating that they made it, implementing cover and
00:37:39
move, but they left the other sniper team out there.
00:37:43
So the lesson from this is not just like cover and move within your own team, but how does
00:37:50
your team or your department, if you were going to apply this in a business sense, it's
00:37:54
got to be able to work together with all of the other teams or departments in order to
00:37:59
achieve a singular purpose.
00:38:02
And often, small teams get so focused on their immediate tasks that they forget what other
00:38:07
people are doing.
00:38:09
And that's challenging.
00:38:11
I mean, it's a lot more work to figure out how all of the teams around you are doing
00:38:15
things that might impact you and how you're helping them.
00:38:19
But if you are looking at it from an organizational perspective where you can see the big picture,
00:38:27
you can see how important this is.
00:38:29
Right.
00:38:30
Yeah.
00:38:31
And I would also note like sometimes this works business to business too.
00:38:34
Yeah.
00:38:35
Sometimes businesses can cover each other and move their way through a scenario as well.
00:38:38
So yeah, it works on a lot of levels.
00:38:41
Yep.
00:38:42
There's no us versus them.
00:38:44
Yep.
00:38:45
Uh, chapter six is simple.
00:38:47
It's pretty simple.
00:38:49
I should probably mention that this is where my action item comes from.
00:38:53
So maybe I should have bolded this one.
00:38:54
Um, there's really a whole lot to talk about here though.
00:38:59
The basic idea is you get in that one word title, just keep things as simple as you can.
00:39:05
And the story that they tell from this chapter, they were working with some Iraqi soldiers
00:39:10
who were on their side and they were creating this big plan and they're looking at it and
00:39:14
they're like, that is way too complex.
00:39:15
You should just do this really little basic simple thing.
00:39:18
You know, when he, when he changed the plan on them, you could tell that they were kind
00:39:20
of disappointed, but then they went out there and it's like 20 seconds later and they
00:39:23
were in a firefight for their, trying to save their lives.
00:39:26
So after that point, they kind of got it.
00:39:30
But this is, this is something that I think I could do a better job in not, uh, just generally
00:39:36
simplifying my systems and my habits because you can have all these complex intricate plans
00:39:44
for how you're going to do things.
00:39:47
But one of the things that they mentioned in this chapter, which really hit me was the
00:39:52
enemy gets a vote.
00:39:55
So the enemy is going to do something to disrupt your plan and you can define who your own
00:40:00
enemy is, but you ever, if you've ever tried to plan out your entire day from beginning
00:40:04
to end, you know exactly what I'm talking about.
00:40:07
Yes.
00:40:08
There's complexity, there's confusion, there's disaster.
00:40:10
And when you make a plan too complex, you can't make the rapid adjustments as you go.
00:40:14
And so I feel like I've done a okay job simplifying like my daily planning stuff.
00:40:19
And when it comes to all the different systems that I have, all the different habits that
00:40:22
I have, I kind of want to go back and look at all those things and figure out how can
00:40:25
I make this even simpler.
00:40:27
Yeah.
00:40:28
I, I gravitated towards this one pretty strongly.
00:40:32
I, I didn't have an action item off of it, but I can definitely see how like I've been
00:40:39
slowly working towards that this past probably five months of slowly cutting things out so
00:40:45
that things are a lot more stable and simplified.
00:40:48
So yes, I, I like this chapter.
00:40:50
Yeah.
00:40:51
One of the things they say in this chapter, uh, where'd that go?
00:40:54
I just had it.
00:40:56
When things go wrong and they will go wrong, complexity compounds issues as they spiral
00:41:01
into disaster.
00:41:02
Yes.
00:41:03
I mean, that could apply to a lot of different arenas and you probably are picturing a scenario
00:41:07
in your head where that has indeed happened.
00:41:10
I know I am.
00:41:11
Yep.
00:41:12
Yep.
00:41:13
Maybe through or for scenario.
00:41:15
Yeah, exactly.
00:41:16
But that brings us to chapter seven, which is prioritize and execute.
00:41:22
You can probably guess that one.
00:41:23
Like when you have a whole bunch of things going on that all seem to need dealt with,
00:41:30
they all seem super important, super urgent.
00:41:33
The only thing you can do is determine which of those is the penultimate of importance and
00:41:42
execute on that particular item.
00:41:45
That's the gist of that whole chapter.
00:41:48
Yeah.
00:41:49
Uh, there's a term from here called decisively engaged, which I liked.
00:41:57
The term decisively engaged is a battle in which the unit locked in a tough combat situation
00:42:02
cannot maneuver or extricate themselves.
00:42:05
They must win.
00:42:07
And so that kind of paints the picture for the military story that they tell, but prioritize
00:42:14
and execute.
00:42:15
One of the things that can get lost here is that there really is only one thing that
00:42:21
you can do.
00:42:22
I mean, you may have multiple options, but you're not trying to implement four different strategic
00:42:28
objectives at once.
00:42:29
You're trying to stay alive.
00:42:30
Yes.
00:42:31
So there is a very specific format, I guess, that they follow in order to do that, which
00:42:40
I just added this down in my notes.
00:42:42
And again, this is actually one of the notes that I've uploaded to the Bookworm Club.
00:42:46
So you can get, get this if you wanted to look at it, evaluate the highest priority
00:42:50
problem, layout in simple, clear and concise terms, the highest priority effort for your
00:42:55
team, develop and determine a solution, seek input from key leaders and from the team
00:43:00
where possible, direct the execution of that solution, focusing all effort and resources
00:43:04
towards this priority task, move on to the highest priority prop, move on to the next
00:43:08
highest priority problem and repeat.
00:43:11
So there's basically five different steps there.
00:43:14
And it sounds like maybe more than it really is because sometimes you've got to go through
00:43:19
all of this stuff super fast because the enemy is right there in your face and you just got
00:43:24
to decide.
00:43:25
Right.
00:43:26
That's one of the things that they talk about.
00:43:27
And this is something that I've dealt with is like the paralysis by analysis.
00:43:32
You just got to relax, look around and make a call.
00:43:34
Yep.
00:43:35
That's all you can do.
00:43:36
And that brings us to chapter eight, decentralized command.
00:43:41
Take a guess at that one.
00:43:42
It's basically that you need to have the folks who are leading underneath of you.
00:43:49
So you're under leaders.
00:43:51
They need to be able to make decisions and operate without your every like without relying
00:43:59
on every decision coming from you.
00:44:01
So I kind of see this from a business scenario of, especially somebody who leads a web development
00:44:08
company is the people who work underneath of me, they need to be able to make day to
00:44:13
day, you know, almost week to week decisions about how things are built without needing
00:44:20
to come to meet it for every scenario.
00:44:22
They may have questions about which projects should be worked on or how they should be
00:44:28
strategically placed.
00:44:30
But they need to be able to make decisions on the ground about how things actually operate.
00:44:36
And I can't say I'm always the best at allowing that.
00:44:39
It's probably an area I could improve on.
00:44:41
But the idea that the people who can who are under me are able to make decisions as
00:44:45
well, that's it's pretty powerful because it means that I'm able to get my head above
00:44:49
water and think on a higher level on a more strategic level, which is a lot of what they
00:44:55
were getting at.
00:44:57
As long as the people who were leading their platoons who were in the field, the ones,
00:45:02
you know, being shot at, if they're able to make decisions as things happen, their leaders
00:45:09
are able to make higher level decisions about where to send certain troops and not be caught
00:45:14
up in the details of which building is under fire.
00:45:17
So it's a very helpful process of having people being able to make their own decisions.
00:45:22
Yeah, if you are not the best at this, then I'm just going to say that I'm the worst at
00:45:26
this.
00:45:27
I've always had trouble delegating.
00:45:31
And this chapter, the reason I highlighted this, as we're going through all the other
00:45:34
chapters and I've got something to say about all of them, I'm like, maybe I should have
00:45:37
highlighted those.
00:45:38
But now that we got in here, I realize why I highlighted this in the first place.
00:45:42
It's because I really need to get better at this.
00:45:46
I view the lessons for me from this chapter, though, specifically, and not that I'm even
00:45:53
in a position to do this, but I guess I'm thinking back to all the times that I've struggled
00:45:57
with this and maybe it's the reason that I'm not in a position to do this is just the
00:46:01
fact that I have trouble trusting that I'm going to delegate this thing to somebody and
00:46:06
then believing that they're going to follow through and get it done, which is really what
00:46:12
has to happen with decentralized command.
00:46:14
Decentralized command is basically giving everybody below you the ability to make their
00:46:21
own calls because you trust their judgment.
00:46:23
In fact, one of the things that they mention here is that junior leaders must know that
00:46:28
the boss will back them up even if they make a decision that doesn't lead to the best outcome.
00:46:34
And just being honest with myself here, this is not something that I have been good at.
00:46:39
It's something that I aspire to.
00:46:41
It's something that even before I read this book, I would like to say that, yes, I exhibit
00:46:46
this, but as I take stock of my own situation, I realize that I do tend to look at things
00:46:51
based on the lag measures or the results and then saying, well, good job or you shouldn't
00:46:57
have done that based off of that, even in my parenting, like this is something that I need
00:47:01
to I need to get better at is just giving people what they need, the parameters within which
00:47:10
they can function and then giving them the freedom to make their own decisions based
00:47:15
on what they think is right.
00:47:18
Now in order to do that, a lot of communication has to happen.
00:47:23
He mentions in this chapter also that every leader must understand not just what to do,
00:47:28
but why they are doing it and the commander's intent.
00:47:32
Okay.
00:47:33
So this is where I kind of view like the Schmidt's Valley core values that we've got casting the
00:47:38
division for our family.
00:47:40
Like this is our decision making guidelines or standard operating procedures, if you will.
00:47:45
Like this is the parameters within which we're going to be making our decisions, but then
00:47:50
there comes a point where my kids have to be able to make their own decisions and they
00:47:55
have to understand this stuff in order to make those decisions that are going to lead
00:48:01
to a good life instead of the things that are going to get them off track and distracted.
00:48:05
And ultimately they have to find their own path.
00:48:08
I'm not saying that we're creating little Mike and Rachel clones and telling them exactly
00:48:13
what they need to do.
00:48:14
Like they're free to identify their own talents, their own abilities and figure out the best
00:48:18
way to do them.
00:48:19
But ultimately, I mean, the faith based productivity guy, right?
00:48:22
So when I want people to connect to their calling, discover their destiny, live a life
00:48:26
they're created for, well, I got to do that with my kids and I got to do that with everybody
00:48:29
that is quote, unquote underneath me.
00:48:34
I don't like using that term, but I think it's the most appropriate based on the whole idea
00:48:38
of the chain of command and the military culture that this lesson comes from.
00:48:42
Does that make sense?
00:48:43
It makes me happy that you used quote unquote.
00:48:45
I hesitated as I was doing it.
00:48:49
I'm like, ah, yes, I did not connect this to leading a family, the whole concept of
00:48:58
decentralized command, I did not connect that to, you know, me leading my family and.
00:49:04
Well, do you think I'm crazy for doing that?
00:49:06
No, it is humbling because it means that I have some work to do.
00:49:12
And I just hadn't thought about it, but as you're sitting here explaining that, like,
00:49:17
okay.
00:49:18
Oh, yeah, I should probably think this through because I haven't.
00:49:24
And now I'm wondering if I'm doing a good job with that and my surface level gut reaction
00:49:31
to that is not even close.
00:49:33
So yep, here we are.
00:49:36
Well, thanks for that, Mike.
00:49:38
Sorry.
00:49:39
I appreciate that.
00:49:40
No.
00:49:41
Well, I only bring it up because I'm dealing with it myself.
00:49:42
I mean, he mentions in this chapter the solution to leaders who try to take on too much.
00:49:46
Yep, that's me.
00:49:47
Mike raises hand is decentralized command.
00:49:50
Like you have to be able to delegate this stuff and it's not just dumping a bunch of
00:49:54
stuff on somebody else and saying, go do this.
00:49:57
So in a family context, you've got the in my situation, my wife and I who are leading
00:50:03
our family, I'm not above heard necessarily, but we have to work together and decentralized
00:50:10
command.
00:50:11
I view is still a central piece of that.
00:50:13
So it's not even just management up and down.
00:50:16
I'd also say it's management left and right where if you're trying to coordinate all of
00:50:22
the efforts of your team, you have to be okay with not making every important decision,
00:50:30
which I'm not.
00:50:32
Right.
00:50:33
So I got to figure out a way to do that.
00:50:35
I got to quit micromanaging, you know?
00:50:38
Yeah.
00:50:39
No, that makes sense.
00:50:40
I'm going to spend some time thinking that one through.
00:50:43
So yes, that actually brings us to the end of part two.
00:50:47
So that is the laws of combat and that brings us into part three, sustaining victory.
00:50:55
So just to follow that trajectory, winning the war within is part one.
00:51:00
Part two is the laws of combat and then part three is sustaining victory.
00:51:03
So you can kind of see the progression there of how to win the war through those laws of
00:51:08
combat.
00:51:09
If you've won the war, then what happens?
00:51:12
And the first chapter of this section was planned.
00:51:17
And as I was reading through this, I had a couple different scenarios that I was kind
00:51:24
of taken aback by.
00:51:25
One was I was completely unaware that combat leaders in the midst of war are using PowerPoint
00:51:31
and email daily.
00:51:33
Yeah.
00:51:34
That was wild.
00:51:36
I was so taken aback by that.
00:51:39
It just caught me off guard.
00:51:41
So once they explained it, it made perfect sense.
00:51:44
But yeah, I was not expecting that at all.
00:51:48
So anyway, that was one point.
00:51:49
The second point was that as somebody who does quite a bit of planning, it helped me
00:51:55
see that given combat scenarios, the importance of simplified and direct briefs or what would
00:52:07
you call that combat plan, combat order.
00:52:12
They had an operation order.
00:52:13
I forget what it was called.
00:52:16
But anyway, seeing that the importance of that had a big impact on everyone who was
00:52:21
involved made me wonder about my own briefs of sorts that I do with my team and how I
00:52:28
go about conveying the strategic decisions that are being made by myself and passing them
00:52:34
down to them.
00:52:35
I don't do a real good job with that.
00:52:39
But I also don't have an action item for it because I'm not sure what it means quite
00:52:45
yet.
00:52:46
I do have a question out to the team that works for me, just to see if they have feedback
00:52:53
on it as to whether or not we're doing okay or not.
00:52:56
But no responses there.
00:52:59
Maybe that's an action item.
00:53:00
It's just business operations is what that is.
00:53:04
But anyway, I thought it was interesting.
00:53:06
Yeah, the amount of planning that they do in PowerPoint is crazy.
00:53:10
It definitely caught me off guard when they were explaining it and how many hours when
00:53:16
into that sort of thing before their missions got approved and then they could communicate
00:53:20
to their teams and they could execute them.
00:53:22
But when you think about it, it does make sense.
00:53:26
I mean, this is life and death and they are in the worst possible situation that they
00:53:33
could be in.
00:53:34
They voluntarily go to the worst spot.
00:53:39
So they got to be on their A game and it's not just having a plan, kind of the thing
00:53:45
that stood out to me from this section was that a good plan isn't a plan that completely
00:53:54
mitigates the risk.
00:53:56
Like you figure out a way to eliminate the risk because there is always going to be risk
00:54:01
and they use a phrase which I think I'd heard before, but those who will not risk cannot
00:54:07
win.
00:54:08
But the best teams employ constant analysis so that they can adapt their methods and
00:54:13
they can put themselves in the position where they are most likely to win.
00:54:17
And in order to do that, you have to evaluate all of the different options and you have
00:54:23
to recognize where things could go sideways and what risks you are up against.
00:54:30
And I know from my own experience, whenever I have sat down and realistically spent time
00:54:37
thinking about what are the SWOT analysis would be another version of this I guess, what are
00:54:43
the weaknesses or the threats to our business, bringing this into the business arena.
00:54:51
When you identify those things, it's a lot easier to plan for those things happening.
00:54:57
And then when those things do happen, it's no longer you're completely blindsided by
00:55:02
this thing you never saw it coming.
00:55:04
You kind of know exactly what to do to roll with the punches and yeah, you wish this hadn't
00:55:07
happened, but you're not completely thrown off course by it.
00:55:12
That's the thing that really stood out to me from these stories that they were telling
00:55:15
is they find themselves in these crazy situations where anybody else and even the Iraqi soldiers
00:55:21
who were fighting with them, like they're wide eyed and they have no idea what to do,
00:55:26
they're scared.
00:55:27
But for the seals, it's just like a natural progression down an org chart where as, oh,
00:55:35
this happened, so I guess we got to do this now.
00:55:38
And I do think that there's a ton of value from doing that and that comes from spending
00:55:43
some time thinking about the plans that you're trying to implement, not just saying, well,
00:55:48
this is what I think I'm going to do and hope for the best.
00:55:52
Now some of the value of that planning, that leads us into chapter 10, which is leading
00:55:58
up and down the chain.
00:55:59
I like this one.
00:56:00
I think this is very interesting because typically when we think about leadership, you typically
00:56:08
see that as I'm putting together my plan and I'm making strategic decisions and then it's
00:56:15
my job to convey that down to the people who work underneath of me and work for me and
00:56:21
make sure that the actions in order to drive that mission actually are accomplished.
00:56:29
That's typically how we look at leadership.
00:56:31
And they do talk about that.
00:56:32
That's leading down the chain and making sure that people who are under you understand the
00:56:38
mission and understand the simplicity of it because you're making simple plans, you know?
00:56:43
So making sure that they understand that and that they are empowered to accomplish the
00:56:48
tasks that you're setting out in front of them.
00:56:51
The side of this that I found more of a challenge is the concept of leading up the chain.
00:56:57
Yeah.
00:56:58
And they told some stories around this with how people above them would ask a lot of questions
00:57:07
and say, "Do you have this backup plan in place and did you consider this?"
00:57:11
Of course, yes, we live and breathe this every day.
00:57:13
Of course we thought about that.
00:57:15
Why are you asking me this question?
00:57:16
If you work in sales or you work in the field in any business, you've probably dealt with
00:57:21
those questions from higher up.
00:57:24
How many sales forces?
00:57:25
Raise your hand.
00:57:26
forces, badmouthed corporate office left and right, that's common, it happens all the time.
00:57:35
But the question that Jaco asked in the book around this is why do you think they're asking
00:57:43
those questions?
00:57:44
Why do they keep requesting more information?
00:57:47
Well, it's because I haven't been clear on what I've given them so then they don't know
00:57:52
all of the information, they don't know what's going on, so therefore they have to ask.
00:57:56
So they are not empowered to make the decisions that they need to make, so therefore they're
00:58:01
asking questions to get the information they need to make those decisions so that you can
00:58:04
do your job.
00:58:05
If you follow that whole chain of command, that whole concept was completely new to me.
00:58:11
I've heard the concept of leading up, up the food chain, but I hadn't really seen it explained
00:58:18
like that.
00:58:19
I appreciated them tackling that one because it's definitely not talked about a lot.
00:58:24
Yeah, the story that they shared in that section was interesting.
00:58:27
They had a couple different stories for this one because they're really tackling two different
00:58:31
concepts here.
00:58:33
So talking about, you were just mentioning leading up the chain of command, they realized
00:58:39
from that story, if I'm remembering it, right, that by bringing the person who was asking
00:58:44
all the questions to their position on the battlefield so they could see how they prepare
00:58:50
and they recognize that this is the systems that they have in place, now they don't need
00:58:55
to ask all those questions anymore, which is kind of interesting.
00:58:59
The point really from this is that leading up the chain takes more savvy and skilled in
00:59:03
leading down the chain because when you lead down the chain, you can lean on your authority.
00:59:08
When you're leading up the chain, you have to use influence, experience, knowledge, communication,
00:59:12
and professionalism, you can't really make any mistakes because you're just going to
00:59:17
get chewed out.
00:59:19
But it is possible to do that.
00:59:22
And again, it comes down to the idea of extreme ownership.
00:59:25
So I've been in that position where you're being asked to do something and you don't really
00:59:30
understand why.
00:59:33
And it's really frustrating.
00:59:35
And in the past, I cannot say that I've always dug a little bit deeper and given my superior,
00:59:40
the benefit of the doubt, although reading this, I definitely want to and I want to figure
00:59:45
out how can I be a part of the solution rather than just saying, "Oh, they don't understand."
00:59:52
Like ultimately, that failure and understanding is a team failure, not an individual failure
00:59:58
attributed to my leader.
01:00:01
And so the ownership piece of this is how do I fix the lines of communication so that
01:00:06
everything is flowing freely?
01:00:10
But the other part of this that really challenged me with leading down the chain is the story
01:00:17
here being that Laf didn't realize the impact of what they had done in Ramadi until Jocko
01:00:26
showed him the before/after slides from the power points.
01:00:31
And Jocko at that point, the light bulb went on.
01:00:35
If Laf didn't really get it, how could he expect those below him to get it?
01:00:40
So that insight into the bigger picture, unfortunately, for anybody in that position, does not automatically
01:00:47
get passed to subordinate leaders who are quite rightly focused on the specifics of
01:00:54
their jobs.
01:00:55
So it's your job to cast that bigger vision and their definition of leading down the chain
01:01:02
of command here is stepping out of the office and communicating face to face with your direct
01:01:06
reports.
01:01:08
You could apply this to a family too, just because I hung core values on the wall doesn't
01:01:12
mean that my kids are automatically going to get it.
01:01:14
We still have to talk about it.
01:01:16
We still have to cast the vision for this is who we are, this is what we do.
01:01:21
These are how we make our decisions, how we live our life.
01:01:25
The values that are going to direct us so that we are able to say that, yes, we have
01:01:30
done everything we can to reach our full potential.
01:01:34
That's challenging because there's no point by point plan or formula for doing that.
01:01:42
You got to be able to recognize when your people aren't really getting it and say the
01:01:49
right thing at the right time in order to help them understand that.
01:01:54
If Jaco doesn't have that before, after slide, and he has to describe in words like we reduced
01:02:00
by 37%, whatever, does that mean anything?
01:02:04
Or is it worth the time to put together the PowerPoint slides so that people can see the
01:02:08
before and after?
01:02:09
That's the thing that stood out to me from this.
01:02:11
It's not just the fact that you're trying to communicate as a leader.
01:02:15
You have to figure out the right way to communicate as a leader to cast the vision that you're
01:02:19
trying to cast.
01:02:20
The fact that you put forth some effort does not mean anything.
01:02:26
People have to catch it.
01:02:27
That brings us to chapter 11 here.
01:02:31
That's just something else you wanted to say about this.
01:02:33
Nope.
01:02:34
Although this is a really interesting chapter, like I said, because it's broken into those
01:02:37
two different sections.
01:02:39
It feels kind of weird because we're talking about two different concepts in one chapter.
01:02:44
I think that if there was one chapter in the entire book that absolutely could apply to
01:02:49
anybody's situation anywhere, it would be this one.
01:02:53
Right.
01:02:54
It's so true because you're either at the top or you're not at the top.
01:02:57
But there's something you can do no matter where you find yourself.
01:03:01
Exactly.
01:03:02
Exactly.
01:03:03
So chapter 11, Decisiveness Amid Uncertainty.
01:03:10
I'm going to summarize the main story on this one very quickly.
01:03:13
If you've seen or heard of the movie American Sniper, I think that's what it was called,
01:03:20
American Sniper, Chris, who's the sniper in that, that it's all based around, he actually
01:03:25
was underneath of Jocko and Lafe in their seal teams.
01:03:30
So put that whole picture together there for you.
01:03:33
So Chris is on Overwatch, as they called it, to provide cover for some of the other troops
01:03:42
that are on the ground.
01:03:43
Lafe is there as well.
01:03:44
Chris is one of the best at identifying enemy soldiers and of course one of the best snipers
01:03:50
in the seals.
01:03:52
He sees a man in a window that then retreats from a window and then goes behind a curtain.
01:03:59
And then he sees him come out again and goes behind a curtain.
01:04:02
And he can't necessarily say that this is the enemy, but he saw a man with a scoped rifle.
01:04:08
So the concern is enemy sniper.
01:04:12
And through a back and forth, one of the commanders who's on the ground, who they are providing
01:04:17
cover for, they communicate back and forth with them saying, "Hey, in this particular
01:04:21
building, say it's building 97, we saw this, do you have any men there?"
01:04:27
No, the commander on the ground tells him, "Take him out."
01:04:30
Like, you certainly don't want an enemy sniper above you.
01:04:33
That is not a good scenario.
01:04:36
Through a back and forth, Lafe and Chris are uncomfortable in the scenario, decide not
01:04:40
to take the shot because they can't say for certain that it is an enemy soldier.
01:04:46
So they request the commander on the ground to go clear the building, to make sure to
01:04:51
take care of it.
01:04:52
Through a back and forth, a lot of frustrations.
01:04:54
The commander on the ground decides, "Yes, we'll go clear the building."
01:04:57
As soon as the seals see the commander's troops come out of their building to go clear
01:05:04
the building, they immediately call on the radio, "Get back in your building."
01:05:08
Because what happened was they had identified the building wrong.
01:05:11
Yeah.
01:05:12
They had the wrong building.
01:05:13
It was actually a friendly soldier that they were looking at in that building.
01:05:16
They had determined that they were looking in the wrong place.
01:05:20
So the concept of this chapter is making a decision even though you're uncertain.
01:05:27
And in that case, Lafe made the decision not to have the trigger pulled because he was
01:05:32
uncertain of what was going on.
01:05:35
And that concept is what this whole chapter floats around, of being willing to make a
01:05:40
decision based on what you know, even though what you know may not be the full story, which
01:05:45
is not simple as someone who leads a web development company.
01:05:50
I feel like I deal with this a lot.
01:05:51
A lot of times you just have to make decisions whether you know the whole story or not.
01:05:55
Because guess what?
01:05:56
Clients aren't always the best at telling you what they want.
01:05:59
So you have the trouble of trying to translate a lot of times, but that's the idea of this
01:06:06
particular chapter though.
01:06:07
Yeah.
01:06:08
This chapter made me uncomfortable because the whole idea is that you're never going to
01:06:15
get all of the information, which I understand and really the story, even the information
01:06:24
that they received was telling them one thing, but it was kind of a gut reaction that they
01:06:30
decided not to take the shot.
01:06:33
So at what point being the over analytical questioner that I am, my brain immediately
01:06:41
goes, okay, so where's the line?
01:06:44
Where do you just trust your gut and where do you just follow the data?
01:06:49
And that really isn't a simple solution.
01:06:52
And there's really nothing outlining this chapter about how to do that.
01:06:57
Really they just give you permission to make those educated guesses based on an incomplete
01:07:02
picture and tell you flat out that you're never going to get all of the information.
01:07:06
There is no 100% right solution.
01:07:09
There's always going to be a little bit of, well, maybe we should have done the other
01:07:13
thing.
01:07:14
And as a leader, you can't deal with that.
01:07:16
You can't be paralyzed by fear because that's going to lead a fear of making the wrong decision.
01:07:21
I guess is kind of the thing that I'm speaking to from my situation because that's just going
01:07:25
to lead to inaction.
01:07:27
Right.
01:07:28
Right.
01:07:29
Now, chapter 12, the dichotomy of leadership.
01:07:33
You want to introduce this one?
01:07:35
This is an interesting one because like I said at the beginning, they actually have a
01:07:39
whole another book devoted to this.
01:07:42
And I haven't read that one, but the person who told me about it said they basically started
01:07:46
off by saying, yeah, we apologize.
01:07:48
We messed up with extreme ownership because everybody's trying to take this idea of extreme
01:07:51
ownership to the extreme and they don't allow anybody underneath them to take ownership
01:07:55
of anything.
01:07:58
So the dichotomy here is that there's two sides to this.
01:08:03
And in this chapter, they talk about the two different sides of a lot of different things.
01:08:09
I mentioned confident, but not cocky, courageous, but not foolhardy, competitive, but a gracious
01:08:15
loser, attentive to detail, but not obsessed by them, strong, but have endurance, be a leader
01:08:21
and a follower, humble, not passive.
01:08:23
I mean, the list goes on.
01:08:24
They also mentioned a good leader has nothing to prove, but everything to prove.
01:08:28
So this kind of is talking about how there are different times and situations where these
01:08:34
different traits, which seem to be at odds with each other are actually the right thing
01:08:38
to do.
01:08:39
But as it pertains to the dichotomy of leadership and the idea of extreme ownership specifically,
01:08:46
I think the idea here is that you have to be able to recognize when you need to take
01:08:53
extreme ownership for the situation, like Jocko did at the beginning when he said it's
01:08:59
my fault that we had friendly fire and when to let the people below you take extreme ownership
01:09:06
because they mentioned that in the other book, that kind of the stories that they heard from
01:09:12
the business world, now that they have this consulting company and they work with these
01:09:15
different companies and organizations, they recognize that the leaders become the bottlenecks
01:09:21
for these teams and organizations because they're trying to assume responsibility for
01:09:24
everything.
01:09:25
And then they come in and they're like, you got to quit doing that.
01:09:28
And he's like, what are you talking about?
01:09:29
I'm doing exactly what you said.
01:09:30
I'm taking extreme ownership.
01:09:31
They're like, yeah, but none of your people are.
01:09:34
So it's hurting your team or your organization ultimately.
01:09:40
And this is something that is very difficult to do.
01:09:44
Even and really the question in my mind is, okay, it's one thing to let people below you
01:09:53
take extreme ownership when they are completely on board with the idea of extreme ownership.
01:09:58
They've gone through like the military style training and they understand the idea.
01:10:02
That's one thing.
01:10:03
What if they're not willing to take extreme ownership?
01:10:07
Do you still give them the ability to do that so that they can fail or do you just say,
01:10:11
I'm going to take care of this.
01:10:12
And again, there's a whole bunch of nuance to every single situation where you can apply
01:10:16
this.
01:10:17
But again, it bothers me that there's no clear answer to this.
01:10:20
Yeah.
01:10:21
And it's something that I just need.
01:10:22
I guess I'm challenged.
01:10:23
I got to study this out more.
01:10:24
Yeah.
01:10:25
I think there's two things here that I noted.
01:10:28
One is because I'm aware of them, there's some feedback that to people who have read the
01:10:35
book of like, well, you have to let people under you do this as well.
01:10:41
Well, that would tell me that those who are taking that away from their underlings, that's
01:10:46
probably a bad word to use for that, the people who work under you, they didn't really
01:10:50
catch chapter eight decentralized command.
01:10:53
Like, to me, that's very important in that whole scheme of things.
01:10:59
Like, that's a piece that you really can't let go because you have to let them make mistakes
01:11:05
and be willing to work through it as well.
01:11:09
So that's kind of one piece.
01:11:12
The second is they do tell stories of how like the chain of command does work in the
01:11:20
seals and how they do have platoon leaders and they do have folks that they, just various
01:11:29
different levels.
01:11:30
And they told a story at one point about how when they were in their own hell week,
01:11:36
Jocko and Lafe, when they were going through that training, I think it was Lafe, his specific
01:11:41
training that there were members of his platoon at that time that they took ownership.
01:11:50
And he and his team took ownership over their own outcomes and ended up carrying a couple
01:11:57
people along the ride with them.
01:12:00
And he said that looking back, they probably shouldn't have made it into becoming a full
01:12:04
seal.
01:12:06
And obviously he's not going to say names in that scenario, but he felt like he carried
01:12:12
people when they probably shouldn't have.
01:12:15
I think that's some of what they're getting at here with this dichotomy of leadership.
01:12:19
I've had to deal with that myself with at what point do you have to say, I am going to step
01:12:25
back and let you make decisions on your own and let you make mistakes and then let you
01:12:31
deal with the consequences of them.
01:12:34
And yet taking ownership for the decisions that they are making, like that's difficult.
01:12:39
That is not simple.
01:12:41
I think that's a lot of what they're getting at with this chapter, but they do.
01:12:44
They talk about how like you have to be confident, but you have to be humble.
01:12:47
You have to be, you know, they've got these back and forth that they go through.
01:12:52
And it's not simple, but I do think that there's what they're talking about is you don't always
01:12:59
have to carry everything all the time.
01:13:02
Now, I'm very curious to read the other book now.
01:13:04
I didn't know there was another book, but I knew there was a little bit of pushback
01:13:08
against this one.
01:13:09
I just don't.
01:13:10
I personally don't see how they got to that point by reading this because I can see the
01:13:14
alternative here, but maybe that's just me.
01:13:17
And usually pretty good at generalizing things.
01:13:19
Well, it kind of comes back to chapter one because they do say in chapter one that the
01:13:27
mission is more important than an individual.
01:13:31
And if an individual is not performing, the leader has to get them the resources or training
01:13:35
that they need to be successful.
01:13:36
And if they're still not successful, they have to get rid of them because you're loyal
01:13:40
to the team and the mission first.
01:13:42
So I can definitely see where being so invested in wanting a single person to be successful,
01:13:51
even when they don't want it for themselves.
01:13:54
That would be a difficult situation, but at some point you do have to say, I am going
01:13:59
to go help these other people who are actually responding to the help that I can give them
01:14:03
because the mission demands it.
01:14:06
And that's not easy.
01:14:08
None of this stuff is easy.
01:14:10
Leadership is not easy.
01:14:11
Which is why even though we go through this book and I know some of the other books that
01:14:17
we've read, one of my criticisms has been, well, I have a lot more questions now.
01:14:23
They didn't really give me any answers.
01:14:25
This one doesn't give you a point-by-point plan to follow because leadership is not that
01:14:32
simple.
01:14:33
It's messy and it's complicated.
01:14:35
But I also feel like the way that this book is laid out and the different things that
01:14:39
they talk about and the different stories that they tell, they give you enough of the
01:14:42
context where you understand the different tools that you need to have and then it's
01:14:48
still up to you when you need to employ the right tool.
01:14:52
Does that make sense?
01:14:53
Yeah.
01:14:54
No, I think it makes a lot of sense because trying to lead teams is no simple matter.
01:15:02
And generally speaking, though in their book they'll tend to use the phrase simple, not
01:15:07
easy.
01:15:08
It's not easy to go through each of these steps and do each of the things that they
01:15:13
mention here, but they are simple principles.
01:15:16
Yeah.
01:15:17
They are.
01:15:18
Yeah.
01:15:19
How they get applied maybe isn't so simple.
01:15:20
Right.
01:15:21
Right.
01:15:22
So that said, you're ready for action items?
01:15:25
I am.
01:15:26
Yeah.
01:15:27
So like I said, there's a bunch of stuff in here that I am definitely going to use and
01:15:33
implement.
01:15:34
But like I tried to explain in the last little bit there, I kind of view these as tools in
01:15:40
a leadership toolbox where it's not something as simple as just do this now.
01:15:46
Right.
01:15:47
The one thing that I wrote down as an action item was to simplify my systems and habits
01:15:53
because that is something that's got a beginning and an ending associated with it that I can
01:15:59
check off on a list.
01:16:01
But I will say that there is a ton of stuff that is in this book that even since I've
01:16:06
read it, I've had it finished for I think two weeks at this point.
01:16:12
If I were to look back over the last two weeks since I have read this and take stock
01:16:18
of the conversations that I have had in my approach to doing things that I had done a
01:16:23
certain way previously, this book's fingerprints are all over the place.
01:16:29
So it was definitely an impactful book and I want to just call that out because it can
01:16:33
be easy to say, well, this thing doesn't have like a system that I can follow.
01:16:37
So I'm not sure how this is actually impacting my life.
01:16:39
For me, even though I've only got the one action item from this, it was definitely a
01:16:44
very impactful book.
01:16:45
I don't have any action items on this one, which it's kind of weird considering there's
01:16:50
a number of things I've mentioned.
01:16:52
Like I could do this better.
01:16:53
I could do that or yeah, I'm not good at that at all.
01:16:57
But I think they're talking about a mindset.
01:17:02
This whole book is about the mindset of extreme ownership and I most certainly have bought
01:17:08
in on that.
01:17:10
But I don't really know how to describe that as an action item.
01:17:12
This is one of those like good to know going to impact how I do things, but I don't know
01:17:18
how to articulate how that's going to impact day to day pieces or even week to week pieces.
01:17:25
So yep.
01:17:26
I have action items here, but it's definitely impacted me in quite a few ways.
01:17:31
Yeah, that's the thing.
01:17:33
Number of action items does not equal impact from some of these books that we read.
01:17:39
And this was one, and again, I liked the whole topic of leadership, but this really
01:17:44
pushed all my buttons.
01:17:46
Sure.
01:17:47
Sure.
01:17:48
All right.
01:17:49
So what do you think of their style?
01:17:50
How are you going to rate it?
01:17:51
I really like their style.
01:17:57
I don't have any military experience.
01:17:59
I do like the descriptions and the order and the systems that come with a lot of that culture,
01:18:07
the chain of command, the honor that's associated with the way that the different branches of
01:18:13
the military do things.
01:18:15
I like the stories about the heroes.
01:18:18
You know, ultimately, I think that's the thing that really resonates for me with this book
01:18:22
is the whole reason that they were there, and they mentioned this multiple times while
01:18:28
they are in there, is by their presence being in that city, it meant that X number of people
01:18:34
stayed alive, X number of citizens, Iraqi police, you know, that's how they measured the impact
01:18:40
that they had there.
01:18:41
It was nothing about they accomplished a mission.
01:18:43
It was all about the impact that they had in other people's lives.
01:18:47
So regardless of whether you identify with military culture or not, I really think that
01:18:52
idea is at the heart of every person alive is they want to leave a legacy and have an
01:18:59
impact that goes beyond just themselves.
01:19:02
And that's what this book is really great at doing is inspiring and painting a picture
01:19:07
of that type of impact that you can have.
01:19:11
And I was a little bit concerned at the beginning that the military culture stuff would be because
01:19:16
that's their experience and kind of where the stuff is birthed out of, that it would be
01:19:19
so strong, it would be impossible to disconnect with that.
01:19:22
But the way that they structured it, where they talk about the stories from their deployment
01:19:26
and then the principal and then the business example, I felt like there's a ton of balance
01:19:31
there.
01:19:32
And even if you have no affinity for military culture or are completely turned off by that,
01:19:38
there's still enough here that will give you stories and pictures of how you can implement
01:19:44
this in your own situation.
01:19:46
So the material, I thought, the concepts that they talk about, the lessons that they taught,
01:19:51
top notch, like I mentioned, this has really been impactful for me in the last couple of
01:19:54
weeks as I've been figuring out different ways that I've already applied this kind of
01:19:59
subconsciously to my own life.
01:20:02
I bought several copies of this and gifted it to people because it had such an impact
01:20:07
on me and I knew there was the same mindset there, big into developing their own leadership
01:20:12
skills.
01:20:13
This is going to speak to them as well.
01:20:16
And so I think this book is easy to rate five stars, but I also can see where if you are
01:20:24
not, maybe you're not all in with the concept of leadership, or you're a little bit bothered
01:20:30
by this whole idea of extreme ownership, kind of like you were talking about at the beginning
01:20:33
of Joe, I totally understand that side where you're in a situation where something happened
01:20:37
to you that was completely unfair and you, you have to suffer for it.
01:20:43
I don't know what to say to you at that point because I'm not in that situation other than
01:20:49
I empathize with you.
01:20:50
So I can see a situation where maybe people would be turned off by the tone of this book,
01:20:55
but for people who have a growth mindset, who listen to this podcast, who want to take
01:21:03
ownership of their situation and improve their tomorrow, I think that I would have no problems
01:21:09
recommending this.
01:21:10
I have to say that I there is a military history in my family, not in my immediate family,
01:21:19
but I do have relatives who are either actively serving in the military or did previously
01:21:25
in previous wars or within the last decade.
01:21:28
So I'm not, I don't have firsthand knowledge as what it's like to be in the military, but
01:21:36
I'm around it quite a bit.
01:21:38
Just anytime my family gets together, it always comes up in some form or another.
01:21:44
And reading books like this, I know, you know, just being male, I'm drawn to war scenarios
01:21:52
almost always intrigue me as a result of a simple Y chromosome, it seems.
01:21:57
But the this particular book, they do a fantastic job of explaining things in the forward for
01:22:03
it.
01:22:04
They even say that because when I first picked it up, I was like, okay, they're going to tell
01:22:07
a lot of war stories here.
01:22:08
I wonder how they do for like censoring things and making sure they don't give things away
01:22:13
because they're pretty sensitive to that in military scenarios.
01:22:18
And they do a good job of explaining how they did vet this book through some of the higher
01:22:23
ups in the armed forces processes.
01:22:27
So it has been vetted, but it's that was interesting and important, I think, especially
01:22:33
to them to spell it out, but they do a fantastic job of writing this.
01:22:37
I was definitely intrigued by it.
01:22:39
I had a hard time putting it down.
01:22:41
It took me a little longer to get through just because I had some health issues that
01:22:45
made it really hard for me to sit and read over the last two to three weeks.
01:22:49
So I had a hard time getting through it for other reasons, but whenever I could get time
01:22:54
to read, I just devoured this.
01:22:57
So I'm with you.
01:22:58
This is a five star book.
01:23:00
The principles here are applicable in so many different scenarios.
01:23:05
Really love this thing.
01:23:06
Highly recommend it.
01:23:07
Definitely.
01:23:08
Definitely a good one to go through.
01:23:11
So we got a double five, Mike.
01:23:14
Good pick.
01:23:15
Actually, thanks to the bookworm club listeners for that one.
01:23:19
Speaking of picks, our upcoming books, the one that's up on the list for the next round
01:23:25
is my choice.
01:23:27
And I selected a book I've actually read before called Quiet by Susan Cain.
01:23:32
It's about introversion and working with or being an introvert.
01:23:37
I've started going through this.
01:23:38
Have you started this one yet, Mike?
01:23:40
I have not.
01:23:41
Nope.
01:23:42
I'm still going through one of my gap books, which we'll get to in a second.
01:23:46
But I am very much intrigued by this book.
01:23:50
Yes.
01:23:52
Having read it before, I know this will lead to some fun conversations because we're both
01:23:56
introverts at least I'm assuming you are based on what I know of you.
01:23:59
Definitely.
01:24:00
So this will be a fun one to go through.
01:24:02
All right.
01:24:03
I don't have a book yet.
01:24:05
So we're going to do this live.
01:24:07
I am going to go to the bookworm club.
01:24:09
Ooh.
01:24:10
As in, like right now, you have no idea what you're getting ready to pick.
01:24:13
Nope, I do not.
01:24:14
So I'm going to go to the recommendations.
01:24:16
This will be fun.
01:24:18
And I'm going to sort by votes and we're going to pick the thing at the top.
01:24:21
What happens if there's more than one at the top?
01:24:23
Well, there isn't.
01:24:24
There's one.
01:24:25
So I'm going to take smart notes.
01:24:27
How to take smart notes.
01:24:29
Whoa.
01:24:30
That's it's decidedly in the lead.
01:24:32
Yeah, exactly.
01:24:33
Where's the author for this?
01:24:35
So thank you Gabby for submitting this one.
01:24:38
I saw this one come through before.
01:24:39
Sankay Aaron's, I believe, is how you say the author's name.
01:24:44
This is a really interesting book basically on how to take better notes so you remember
01:24:50
information better.
01:24:51
So thanks Gabby for recommending this one.
01:24:53
This is the one we'll go through after quiet by Susan Kane.
01:24:56
Interesting.
01:24:57
That'll be kind of fun.
01:24:58
That's kind of a cool way to do that.
01:24:59
Just pick it on while we're on the show.
01:25:01
Cool, cool.
01:25:02
That could have ended very badly.
01:25:04
It could have.
01:25:05
It definitely could have.
01:25:07
Don't guarantee I'm going to do that every time.
01:25:10
For gap books, I don't have one.
01:25:12
I mentioned I had some health stuff over the last two to three weeks.
01:25:16
Made it hard to read.
01:25:17
So I was doing good to get through our bookworm book over this last round.
01:25:21
So no gap book for me.
01:25:23
Sad day.
01:25:24
I've got a gap book and I've started this one.
01:25:28
This is also a very long book.
01:25:30
This was gifted to me by somebody and it is Run for Your Life by Mark Cuckoo-Zella.
01:25:36
It's basically a book on proper running form.
01:25:40
And the argument that he makes for the tweaks to running form that he outlines in this book
01:25:45
is that there are cultures that do nothing but run for like days at a time and they have
01:25:51
no health issues.
01:25:52
So we were literally made to run but we do it wrong which is why we hurt.
01:25:59
Interesting.
01:26:00
And I am getting ready to as we record this, I believe it's 12 days until my half marathon.
01:26:08
Last time I ran a half marathon, I hurt myself.
01:26:12
So very timely, although this is more like a lifestyle book and it's got a bunch of exercises
01:26:17
and things that you do from going from this point forward basically.
01:26:21
So it's not I'm not going to be implementing everything from this by the time I run my
01:26:25
half marathon but there's a lot of compelling stuff in here for people who want to learn
01:26:30
how to run without injuring yourself like I do.
01:26:33
Nice.
01:26:34
That'll be interesting.
01:26:35
Well, as you guys noticed, Mike picked a book live on the show through book recommendation
01:26:42
that got a lot of votes.
01:26:44
If you want your book to get to that point, maybe it'll get picked live on the show.
01:26:49
Go to bookworm.fm/recommend or just go to the club.bookworm.fm, join the club and click
01:26:57
on the recommend button and the top right and that will take you to the forum to fill out
01:27:02
to create the book recommendation from there.
01:27:05
But make sure that once you've done that, you click the vote button.
01:27:09
Once you hit submit, you create the topic for the recommendation, top left, hit the vote
01:27:14
button.
01:27:15
Just going to point that out.
01:27:17
Also if you want to see a list of all the books that we've already covered, bookworm.fm/list,
01:27:21
that'll show you all the ones that have been covered and you can also go to club.bookworm.fm
01:27:27
as well to see all the books we've done, the ones that are recommended and you can see
01:27:32
that full list all together in one place from there.
01:27:37
Alright, and you kind of mentioned the bookworm club already.
01:27:40
So I will say though that you can join the bookworm club for free.
01:27:46
You can support the show also by becoming a premium member which gets you links to the
01:27:52
mind map files that I create whenever I read a book.
01:27:56
Some of them like this one are pretty crazy.
01:27:58
So I'm getting ready to upload this one as soon as we get done recording.
01:28:02
And if you also, a couple of other ways you can support the show, the books that are on
01:28:07
the list that Joe had mentioned at bookworm.fm/list, those are Amazon affiliate links.
01:28:11
So if you decide to purchase a book and read along with us, use those links.
01:28:15
Gives us a little bit of spending money.
01:28:17
So we appreciate that.
01:28:18
And then also I want to put out the call again.
01:28:21
It's been a while I think since I did this.
01:28:23
I want to take down KCRW.
01:28:25
So come on people, join the revolution.
01:28:27
Go into iTunes, search for bookworm, and leave a rating and a review.
01:28:33
I want bookworm to be the number one return when people search for bookworm on iTunes.
01:28:39
We're already the number one return, at least for me, when I search for it in overcast.
01:28:43
But I want to see that happen in iTunes.
01:28:46
I also want to see people share their own action items on the club.
01:28:50
We've got a whole section devoted to this.
01:28:52
People are chiming in and commenting on some of the stuff that we're posting.
01:28:55
But if you want to just create your own thread for what you're going to be doing as you're
01:28:59
reading through these books with us, feel free to do that.
01:29:02
It's always more fun to go through this stuff together.
01:29:05
For sure.
01:29:06
No, I think that would be a lot of fun.
01:29:07
I haven't been real good about keeping mine up there, but that's for reasons I've already
01:29:11
mentioned.
01:29:12
So all of that said, if you are reading along the next book that we're going to go through
01:29:16
is Quiet by Susan Cain.
01:29:18
And next time we'll talk about introversion.
01:29:21
That'll be fun.